Wednesday, May 27, 2015

The Morning

Just having woken and risen, he was on his way to the bathroom when his father appeared. This in itself was odd, but what was even more bizarre was that they were at his beloved grandmother’s house.

Thus he had envisioned having a makeshift shower in the huge white cast iron bath with magnificent lions feet at each corner. Grandma, more accustomed to washing in a bath, had erected a long rubber hose with a shower nozzle at one end especially for him. The other end had cups that attached to the bath taps, much like how plungers fit to a cow’s teats when the farmer collects the daily milk.

The only problem was that as the pressure on the taps increased the plungers often decided they would part from the taps and burst either extremely hot or freezing cold water on your feet. Having a shower at Grandma’s was a risky business.

Without saying anything it was clear that he should follow his father. He lead him to the spare room, the one that was in between his and his grandmother’s. No one ever used this room, since his mother and uncle had grown up. It used to be his uncle’s room. The smallest of all three.

He recalled stories his mother used to tell him of how she and her brother used to play chess through the wall when they should have been sleeping at night. Each had their own complete chess board and they whispered the moves to each other through the wall. Fights invariably broke out as “Bishop to E5 takes queen” resulted in “But my queen isn’t there!”

As they entered the bedroom he noticed the man waiting inside. He had a mixture of grey and white hair with a beard of the same makeup. What was striking, however, was his size. Although not particularly tall, he seemed so. His body was also of a size and yet he wasn’t overweight. It was one of those situations where you could say, “He had a presence.”

Upon entering his father turned and disappeared leaving him alone with the old stranger who took his hand into his big warm palm. There was something familiar about him that wasn’t as yet identifiable.

“You didn’t answer me,” he opened with. His voice was deep and soft. It was a warm expression rather than an accusation.

“I asked you about your future.”

It was only then that the young boy remembered meeting a man on the street. Being weary of strangers he hadn’t answered the question and had hurried on with his business. Now, in the company of said man, it seemed as though he’d erred. He felt he could have at least courteously replied, instead of simple walking away. A guilty feeling crept over him.

Before having a chance to say anything his father returned and lay down on the bed next to them. At that precise moment a small knowing smile crept across both their faces. In that instant the young boy knew who the older man was. The giveaway was how the left side of their mouths curled in exactly the same way when they smiled presenting a small friendly grin.

His grandfather hugged his father who had started to cry. They young boy felt strange and at peace. Strange because his father never cried. At peace because of the love emanating from his grandfather.


It was then that I awoke. Feeling shaken and disturbed I wondered - Who was this man? If he was my father’s father then who was my grandfather? I was left with a burning desire to find out more.

Thursday, December 25, 2014

'Twas the Night Before Christmas

24.12.14 .. more commonly referred to as Christmas in my neck of the woods.

Being married to a family oriented person has many benefits.

Even though it was a very un-Muslim-like-eve the spirit was there thanks to Hanife, and with a bit of arm-twisting I ended up having lovely conversations with a range of relatives across the globe: Sweden, England, and New Zealand.

And thanks to my lovely cousin Anna we had a present - a big box of chocolates. Which I proceeded to devour (well half of it) by myself, resulting in feeling hyper until 2am when I went to bed... and played games until 4am when sleep beckoned.

4pm the next day I finally got up and here we are :)

Have a great Xmas and New Years!


 

Saturday, August 16, 2014

Bir anne ve Bir oğlu

Working in D&R Marmara Forum I noticed 'anne' (mother in Turkish) sitting at the next table. On her table lay her old style simple mobile phone and a little coloured note book.

She was facing the wall so wasn't able to watch the passers by and soon fell asleep.

By-and-by an Iranian family of father, mother, daughter, and son came and sat next to her. Actually they occupied the space that was hers really, but as she was straddling between two tables they appeared to feel it was ok to effectively "move her over".

Well.. she didn't move at all. She was asleep after all. However, due to the newcomers commotions she woke and noticed the young children. She took particular interest in the young boy who was about 5 years old. Dark haired and handsome like his father.

As is the custom she grabbed hold of his partly flabby arm and squeezed it gently conveying her love for him. At first the mother looked a little alarmed, but soon relaxed as people often interact with children in this way here and she could clearly see the older lady, who herself was about 65, meant no harm.

Now awake the lovely bespectacled elder lady simply sat in her chair not moving. She'd decided that she'd become part of the Iranian soirée. She made an effort to communicate in Turkish to which the mother replied in clear English, "I'm sorry I don't understand you."

That didn't prevent further discussions as they developed their own system of raising eye-brows, waving hands, smiling and pointing.

When the conversation petered out anne relaxed back into herself and resumed her vigil. 

Minutes became hours and she seemed concerned that her expected guest might not arrive. I was myself getting worried for her and wondered why she didn't use her mobile phone to connect and ask what the delay was due to. It's quite customary for the younger generation to call and chase whomever immediately upon the arrival of the agreed time.

By now she'd been waiting for over 2 hours which resulted in her previously calm manner becoming one more akin to refrained stress. She started to regularly turn around to survey the bookstore entrance and as she turned back the frown on face grew.

Finally, I was put out of my suspense and discovered who she had so patiently been sitting for. Her son.

As he sat down next to her he presented her with a calculator that he'd just bought. A little discourse ensued whereby she initially protested and then after his explanation she quietly, resignedly said, "Tamam" (ok).

She stretched out for his shirt collar and busily tidied it up even though there was nothing obviously awry with it. Then she with great love and kindness stroked his sleeveless arm. Nay, she caressed his arm as though he were a beloved pet.

As sons are want to do he paid little attention and proceeded to talk about his own business.

A discussion soon followed between all parties in English with the son occasionally translating for his mother. The Iranian visitors left. The mother sat revelling in the presence of her son and looked as though this was the maximum happiness she might attain in life.

As a bystander it was a beautiful thing to watch...

The love that only a mother can have for her son.